Open Question: Did I really mess up my life?

Ok well I am 27 years old and here is my dilemna on why it is so hard for me to get a girlfriend

I lived with my parents most of my life and moved out about a year and a half ago. I recently moved back in with my parents… here is why

I have 3 older siblings and they all got into trouble with everything you can imagine, including my sister who is still in custody battle for her daughter. Over the years of me living with my parents, I stayed and paid them rent (1000 a month) over the last 10 years of my life. That is 120000 dollars! Plus I gave them more money periodically when they really needed it. Then I got myself in a jam when I had to come up with 30000 in medical bills and just was too optimistic I would get out. I have been with my current company for about 5 years and have a decent job, but I just was too dumb to realize that I was just digging my own whole when my parents (who promised to pay me back a while ago) spent every penny they had including the equity in the house and they could not get a loan if their life depended on it.

Basically, I sacrified my financial and stability trying to help my family and the only way out is bankrutpcy. It is the only solution and my mind is set. The issue is that I gave my parents such a huge lump of money recently and I have to wait about another year to file bankruptcy.

Well I have met quite a few people recently and I just end up scaring them away. I am completely open and honest and explain everything. Now I do not just open up on our first date and just throw all the cards on the table and scare them away. I recently went on multiple dates with a really nice girl who I just had the best feeling about and really wanted to give it a try. She didnt care that I lived with my family, that I did not drink alcohol (there seems to be a lot of people who look down on me for not drinking alcohol), or anything else. Then I explained my financial issues, and boom You know I think this won’t work out is what she said. Very similar results for the last 8 people I met.

I am at the point where I find it very difficult to explain my situation and the longer I wait to tell them, the harder it becomes for me ane them. I just want to throw all the cards on the table the very first time I meet a girl and get it done with. That way if she doesnt accept it, we wont spend dozens of hours trying to get to know each other just to have it end when she realizes everything about me.

I know I got myself in this mess, and I will get out. I really want to have a girlfriend as I spent most of my life helping others and missed out on alot in my life and wish someone would give me a chance. I do not need any financial assistance from anyone, nor would this be an issue long term. Yes, my credit will be ruined for the next 7 years, but I would work as hard as I can to make it up and I do make decent money and will be in no worse condition than any other average joe who has a low paying job and a ton of debt.

Any tips? Thanks for your help

Justin